shadi ka faisla

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shadi ka faisla har larki aur larke ki zadgi ka sab se ahem faisla hota hai aur agar is faislay mein mohabbat bhi shaamil ho jaye to yaqenan yeh kisi suhane khawab ki tabeer se kam nahi hoti. kon kehta hai mohabbat mein zuba hoti hai yeh haqeeqat to nigahon se bayan hoti hai lekin haqeeqat to yeh hai ke mohabbat میںزباں hi nahi balkay dimagh bhi nahi hota isi liye to jab mohabbat jaisa Qawi جزہ ghalib aata hai to insaan ke sochnay samajhney ki salahiyat hi khatam ho jati hai kyonk_h jis se mohabbat ho, is ki khaami bhi khaami nahi lagi, mohabbat ke jazbaat daagh par ghalib aajate hain .
is hawalay se mahireen ka kehna hai ke jab hum kisi dost ya rishte daar ke qareeb hotay hain to hamara dimagh un ki shakhsiyat ko parkhnay ke liye aksata hai magar jis shakhs se jazbati qurbat ho, is ke baray mein dimagh aisa karne se rokta hai naka manfi jazbaat o khayalat qurbat ki nifi nah kar saken .

kehte hain mohabbat mein bharoosay ki aur adi ko nibhanay mein aik dosray par aetmaad karne ki zaroorat hoti hai .

is waqt agar koi baat mehlooz e khatir rehti hai to aik dosray se mohabbat aur jazbati wabastagi se peda honay wali kashish hai aur اید isi ko mohabbat ka tilsam kehte hain lekin jab adi ke baad inhen din raat aik hi chhat taley guzaarna parte hain to mamooli aur ghair ahem baatein bhi ahem lagti hain aur noke jhook ka silsila shuru ho jata hai. nah mohabbat rahi nah shadi hamaray haan Talaq ko e ki nakami tasawwur kya jata hai magar shadi ke baad aik dosray ke sath na خوشگوارزندگی guzaarna bhi shadi ki nakami hi ke mutradif hai lekin samajhney baat yeh hai ke bahami mohabbat ke nateejay mein khud –apne jevan saathi ka intikhab karne اوحتی ke khandani mukhalfat tak mol lainay ke baad mohabbat ki shadi ki nakami ka aakhir juwaz kya bantaa hai? dour jadeed mein masharti o samaji eqdaar mein tabdeeli ki badolat pasand aur mohabbat ki shadi ka rivaaj aam ho raha hai اورپڑھے likhay aur باشعورگھرانوں mein choo ki shadion ke mamlaat mein un ki raye ko khaas ahmiyat di jati hai magar is ke bawajood gharelo nachaki aur phir طالاق ki sharah mein izafah dekhnay mein araha hai .
un mein aksariyat unhi logon ki hai jinhon y mohabbat ke nateejay mein Umar bhar aik dosray ke sath rehne ke kasmain ودے kiye thay. is hawalay se home ecnomic college se munsalik maahir nafsiat اورایسوسی at professor zal humma Khan kehti ہیں”میاں biwi mein nachaki, Adam aetmaad, دعم bardasht, na kafi amli tajurbah jaisay masail un ki roz maraah zindagi mein masail ka baais bantay hain. un wuju haat ki bana par do logon mein nah mohabbat barqarar rehti hai aur nah hi shadi .
yahi wajah hai ke mere nazdeek kamyaab shadi ke liye shadi se pehlay aik dosray se mohabbat laazmi shart nahi balkay walidain ki janib se tay shuda shadian baaz auqaat ziyada kamyaab o der pa saabit hoti hain jis mein waqt guzarnay ke sath zehni hum ahangi aur aik dosray ki ahmiyat barhti hai. doosri taraf mohabbat ki shadi mein nakami ki bohat si wajohaat hain mslaََ miyan biwi ki aik dosray se tawaquaat ka معار bohat ouncha ho taa hai .
shadi se pehlay larka aur larki aik dosray ko sabz baagh dikha kar ehmaqon ki jannat mein rehne ke is qader qaail ho jatay hain ke jab amli zindagi ki talkh haqeqteen un par aashkaar hoti hain to woh un ki talkhi jheel nahi paate. aksar larke yeh daaway karte nazar atay hain ke woh chaand tarre tak toar kar لادیں ge, apni mehbooba ki khatir zamane se lar jayen ge magar nateeja kya nikalta hai? woh doono n aik doray se hi lartay dikhayi dete hain .

mohabbat ki shadi ke nateejay mein aksar larka aur larki aik dosray se yeh tawaqqa bhi karte hain ke hamesha sab kuch un ki marzi se hi ho ga aur jab aisa nahi hota to aik dosray ko mordِ ilzaam th_hrate hain, aapas mein رنجیں بڑنے lagti hain, phir ehsas hota hai yeh to woh shakhs hi nahi jis ke hathon –apne khowaboon ka soda kya tha. darasal mustaqbil ke suhane khawab sajanay ke bad baaz auqaat amli zindagi mein saaray khawab rait ke mehal ki مانندڈھے jatay hain .
shadi ka faisla karte hue larka aur larki sirf aik dosray ki misbet baton ko zair-e ghhor rakhtay hain, amli zindagi ki pechidgion se nawaqif hotay hn aisay mein aksar larke mehez larki ki khoubsurti ya zahanat se mutasir har kar usay pani ke liye har had se guzar jatay hain woh yeh nahi دیکتے ke is larki ko khana banana aata hai ya nahi, woh گھریلوکام kaaj mein taaq hai ya nahi, is ke mizaaj mein bardasht aur ghar ke sabhi logon ko sath le kar chalne ki salahiyat hai ya nahi? yeh sab baatein koi aashiq ya mehboob to nazar andaaz kar deta hai magar shohar nahi karta .
isi terhan baaz larkiyan bhi mehez yeh dekhatii hain ke larka un se mohabbat ka izhaar kaisay karta hai, un ka kitna khayaal rakhta hai, un ki zara si takleef par kitna be chain ho jata hai woh y jan-nay ki kosh bhi nahi kartin ke jis aliiiii shaan zindagi ke inhen khawab dikhayi ja rahay hain, woh sach mach inhen poora karne ki istetat rakhta bhi hai ya nahi? aur to o jab woh is ke ghar jayen gi to wahan un ka rishta sirf shohar se hi nahi balkay is se mutaliqa har shakhs se qaim ho ga jo is y tawajah, Muhib , waqt aur kamaai ke hissay daar hon ge .
tab woh is ka shohar, kisi ka beta aur kisi ka bhai bhi hoga. yeh bhi dekha gaya hai ke miyan biwi agar aik hi daftar mein kaam karte hon to aksar وہر apni biwi ki taraqqi se nakhush rehtay benawar yeh ahsasِ kamtaree un ke rishte ko deemak ki terhan chaat laita hai, agar biwi shohar se ziyada kamanay lagey to shehar ko گواراہ nahi hota ke biwi maali zaroriat ke liye is ke samnay dastay نگرنہ ho aur yun mohabbat par mardana anaa aade iahi jati hai .
isi terhan baaz aurtain bhi pasand nahi kartin ke un ka وہر apni kamaai –apne ghar walon par kharch kere. aaj kal shadi ki nakami ki ahem o johat mein kisi had tak khawateen ka azad aur khud mukhtaar hona bhi shaamil hai kyunkay maali tor par mustahkam aurtain choti choti baton par samjhotay karna apni tauheen samjhti hain jo khatar naak masharti rawaiyon ki soorat mein samnay araha hai. hamaray haan shadian do khandano mein tay paati hain aur khusoosan larkiyon se bardasht, narmi, lachak aur maamla fehmi ka taqaza kya jata hai kyunkay inhen apna ghar چوڑ kar apna na aur ahmiyat dena zaroori hai .
larki ko achi terhan ilm ho ke is ke paas ghalti ki talaafi ke mawaqay nah honay ke barabar hain is liye pyar mohabbat se susraliyon ko apna is qader garweedah bana le. waisay bhi mohabbat ki adi ki soorat mein to larki ko sasural mein apni khaas jagah bananay mein ziyada mehnat aur qurbanion ki zaroorat hoti hai aur agar aisay mein koi bhool chowk ho jaye to baho ki hi nahi, saas سسراپنے betay ko bhi taanay dete hain .
shadi shuda joron par das saal tak ki jane wali aik tehqeeq se yeh saabit sun-hwa hai ke mohabbat ki shadi ke nateejay mein guzarte waqt ke sath miyan biwi ke mabain ghalat fehmiya aur dooria peda honay ke imkanaat un logon se kayi gina زیداہ hotay hain jo tay shuda ادیوں ke bandhan se bndh hotay hain kyun ke mohabbat ki shadi karne walay jore aik dosray ki pasand, na pasand, rawaiyon aur rujhanaat ka farq mehsoos kar ke aik dosray ke sath zindagi guzaarna mushkil khayaal karte hain jabkay tay da rishton mein soch bacha ray se faislay kiye jatay hain is liye aisay rishte der pa aur kamyaab hotay hain .
“ nakami ka dukh kisay ziyada hota hai? maahir samajiat Shehla farqi ke mutabiq ”mhbt ki shadi mein nakami ka dukh mardon ki nisbat khawateen mein do gina hota hai aur khawateen rishton ke totnay ki takleef der tak –apne andar mehsoos karti hain. yeh haqeeqat hai ke mardon ki nisbat khawateen rishton ke muamlay mein ziyada mohtaat aur zimma daar hoti hain. taham mard taluqaat qaim karne ke muamlay mein to paish paish hotay hain magar khawateen taluqaat bananay mein jahan mohtaat dikhayi deti hain, wahein agar woh –apne aap ko kisi bandhan mein bandh len to usay nibhanay mein mardo par baazi le jati hain

yahi wajah hai ke aurtain mardon se ziyada bawafa aur mustaqbil mizaaj hoti hain kyunkay taluqaat ke muamlay mein khawateen ke mzaj mein ziyada ٹھہراؤ aur istehkaam paaya jata hai is liye woh taluqaat nibhanay mein apni tamam tar tawa naiya sirf kardeti hain jabkay مردمہم jo tabiyat ke maalik hotay tan is liye un ki wafa dariyan waqt se sath sath tabdeel hoti rehti hain aur aik hi talluq ko der tak nibhanay mein uktahat mehsoos karne lagtay hain jabkay khawateen hamesha wafa daari ka muzahira karti hain .
rishton ko qaim rakhnay ke gُr Allah taala ne aurat mein –apne ghar se لگاؤ aur apnon ki khatir qurbani ka jazba mard ki nisbat ziyada diya hai is liye shadi mohabbat ki ho ya tay da rishton ko qaim rakhnay ke liye inhen mohabbat, khuloos aur eesaar ki taaqat se seencha parta hai. agar koi shakhs aap ko suhane khawab dikha raha hai to yeh bhi sochen ke woh inhen poora karne ki ahliat bhi rakhta hai ya nahi? agar aap –apne khowaboon par samjhota nahi kar sakteen to koi aisa ahem faisla nah karen ke agay chal kar pachtaawa aap ka muqaddar ban jaye .
isi terhan dekh bhaal kaaf faisla karen ke woh larki aap ki khandani eqdaar ko apna sakay gi ya nahi? aap apni biwi mein jo khoobiyan dekhna chahtay hain, woh is larki mein hain bhi ya nahi? mehez jasbaate ke tabay ho kar zindagi ka ahem tareen faisla nah karen aur nah hi kisi larki ki zindagi barbaad karne ke liye usay jhe khawab deikhein kyunkay is terhan aap waqti khushi to haasil kar len ge magar baad mein aap ko bhi pachtaana parre ga .
darasal shadi ki baad mardo khawateen ki zindagi mein tabdeelian runuma hoti hain, haan is mein دارائے nahi ke larkiyon ko nai jagah, naye mahol aur ne logon mein kuch ziyada hi masail ka saamna karna parta hai is liye mohabbat ki shadi ka faisla karte hue un mamlaat ki bhi باقاددہ mansoobah بندکی kar li jaye to shadi ke baad pur sukoon zindagi guzari ja sakti hai. larkiyon ko bhi chahiye ke sasural mein mann maani karne se guraiz kee balkay susraliyon ki psndo napasand ko ahmiyat den .
miyan biwi ke rishte mein dosti honi chahiye aur aik dosray par aetmaad ka izhaar karen, haan farmaishon ki taweel fehrist paish nah karen aur kisi baat ko anaa ka masla nah banayen kyunkay agg miyan biwi apni baat par urr y rahen to ghar ka mahol aur sukoon tabah ho jata hai. koshish karen aik ko gussa aaye to dosra khamosh ho jaye aur jab gussa utre to dosray ko ghalti ka ehsas delaina .
maahir sehat dr fazil bukhari ka khayaal hai ” insaan ke liye mohabbat se سرشارخوگوار taluqaat sehat mand zindagi ke zamin hotay hain kyunkay mohabbat ka jazba insani jism mein khoon ke بہاؤ ko aik khaas satah par rakhtay hue zehni دباؤ se mehfooz rakhta hai balkay khoon ki pedawar mein bhi Muawin saabit hota hai. mohabbat ke nateejay mein ban’nay walay taluqaat insani jism mein bimarion ke khilaaf qotِ mudafat peda karne ka sabab bantay hain .
jadeed tehqeeq ke mutabiq mutmaen shadi shuda joron mein blood pressure ke masail nisbatan kam hotay hain is liye un mein heart attack ka andesha bhi kam hota hai. mahireen ka yeh bhi kehna hai ke agar mein biwi mein har waqt chapqalish rahay to un mein blood sugar jaisi bemari ka imkaan burh jata hai kyunkay zehni دباؤ ki wajah se qudrati tor par jism mein insoline ki miqdaar kam hojati hai is liye takleef da aur nakhushgawaar taluqaat se behtar hai ke akailey hi zindagi گزارلی jaye kyunkay ناخوشگوارتعلقات Umar mein kami ka baais bhi bantay hain .
“اگر miyan biwi mein se koi bemaar ho jaye aur dosra is ki dekh bhaal kere to is ki jald sehat ya bi ka imkaan kahin ziyada barh jata hai kyunkay mohabbat karne walon ka aik dosray ko jazbati sahara dena bhi nafsiati tor par inhen andar se mazboot banata hai. .

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